Backpacks, Bathrooms & Big Feelings: The Hidden Motor Skills Behind Everyday School Routines

As the new school year begins, families and teachers often focus on the big milestones: making friends, learning letters, adjusting to a new classroom. But behind the scenes, there’s another layer of development that plays a huge role in a child’s daily success, which includes the fine and gross motor skills embedded in everyday routines.

For young children, school is full of “small tasks” that actually require complex motor planning, coordination, and sensory processing. From carrying a backpack to using the bathroom to opening a lunch container, these moments can either foster independence or trigger frustration and emotional dysregulation. When we recognize and support the motor demands of these routines, we help kids feel capable, confident, and ready to learn.

Backpack Drop-Off: 

A seemingly simple task like putting away a backpack can challenge a child in multiple ways:

• Lifting and carrying a heavy backpack uses core strength and balance.
• Unzipping compartments requires bilateral coordination and finger strength.
• Organizing materials demands sequencing, planning, and memory.

To make this easier:

• Use low, accessible hooks or cubbies so kids don’t have to stretch or struggle.
• Practice unpacking routines at home with a lightweight backpack.
• Offer visual cue cards to remind them what to do (e.g., hang up bag → wash hands → choose an activity).

When children can complete these tasks independently, they start their day with a sense of success and purpose.

Bathroom Independence: 

Toileting at school isn’t just about timing, it’s a complex routine that involves:

• Managing clothing (buttons, snaps, elastic)
• Wiping properly, which requires body awareness and shoulder range of motion
• Hand washing, which includes multiple fine motor steps like turning faucets, using soap, and drying hands

At school, time is often limited and support may vary. Children who feel rushed, embarrassed, or physically unable to manage may avoid going altogether.

Teachers and families can support bathroom routines by:

• Sending children in clothing with easy-to-manage fasteners
• Using step-by-step visual sequences above sinks or in stalls at school
• Offering extra time and privacy for children still building these skills

A confident bathroom routine reduces anxiety and promotes overall independence.

Snack & Lunch Time:

For little hands, snack time is filled with tiny challenges:

• Opening containers or baggies
• Peeling fruit or unwrapping snacks
• Using utensils, napkins, or straws
• Dealing with new textures, smells, or tastes (which can overwhelm the sensory system)

If a child has poor hand strength or limited coordination, snack time can feel challenging. Others may become overstimulated and avoid eating altogether.

Here are some helpful ideas to remember:

• Families should practice opening containers and packaging at home prior to sending those same items to school.
• If children are still unable to open packaging on their own, consider opening more difficult items at home and filling a lunch box with the contents, when possible.
• Allow extra time for eating, especially at the start of the year

When everyday routines are hard, kids feel it. A child who can’t zip their coat may cry every time it's time to go outside. A child who can't manage their backpack may cling to a teacher instead of transitioning calmly. These moments can be mistaken for behavior issues, when they’re really cries for help. That’s why empathy and observation matter. If you notice a child consistently struggling at the same time of day, look at what’s being asked of their body. Is it a motor or sensory challenge in disguise?